Many people, my self included in the past, believe that life is unfair … I would have a plan about something I wanted to work on or achieve and sometimes when my first attempt was not successful, I would just give up. My giving up often had to do with what people around me had said, or hearing about how so and so have failed in their attempt to start a business or to follow a certain path either I sports or show business.
When I realized how limiting it was to hang around negative people, I had to choose who I associate with; however, though the change in people around me was moving toward the right direction but somehow I was still ruled by this amazing fear or negative thoughts spiral. With those stories of failure at the back of my mind, understanding and embracing this principle was a matter in which I had very little choice on. It was either I held-on to those limiting beliefs and always spoke about how I nearly achieved something for the rest of my life or apply this principle to cement my process of unleashing the giant inside me.
A simple definition of this principle is: Creating an inability to give up no matter how heavily the “odds” are stacked against you.
I created a simple process of how to build this inability to give up, by using the most common tools to do this … OPE (other-people’s-experience). OPE is simply stories of other people who had in their lives experienced amazing adversity and yet went on to achieve their goals. They thus manifested their purpose, attained their vision though goals they set and just made it happen against all odds.
The reason I used this simple methodology is that, the stories told of those who had failed are the ones which paralyzed me: so then what else could uplift me rather than the stories of those who had made it. I simply replaced the belief “I can’t” with the one “if they can, so can I”. I carefully chose the stories about these people, read them, memorized them and used them as an anchor each time I was confronted with challenges in the journey of life.
“Henry Ford forgot to put a reverse gear in his first car”
Building Resilience Through A Success Source
- Change your spending habits: instead of buying CD’s buy autobiographies of people you can relate to and who inspire you
- Search for powerful stories, which illustrate the great human spirit of defying adversity, embrace them as if they were yours
- Attend seminars and workshops, which deals with issues of success in all formats, be it financial or spiritual
- Be a student of life
- Use visualisation techniques to build consciousness, which is always positive and directed
- Do not be afraid to confront people and ask questions
This article is an extract from Billy’s book “From Barefoot to Snake Skin Shoes”
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MOMENTS OF TRUTH
I was negative, broke, lazy, unhappy, unthankful … I believed that there were the so called “lucky people”, born with privilege and riches…I was at the bottom of the food chain and believed that this was were my destiny was. I blamed everyone around me. It was either my parents, the government, friends, blah! blah! blah! … I never ever wanted to take responsibility for my life.
One day it hit me like a thunderstorm when I listened to this particular song by Michael Jackson, it was so amazing, just at that moment I knew that I had come face to face with my Moment of Truth.
These words echoed in my heart when I listened closer to the song…”I am starting with the man in the mirror, I am asking if he will change his ways. No message could have been any clearer. If you want to make this world a better place …take a look at yourself and make that change.”
If you want to make your Country a great one…take a look at yourself and make that change.
if you want to heal your Marriage…take a look at yourself and make that change.
If you want to be a better Father/Mother…take a look at yourself and make that change.
if you want your Business to suceed…take a look at yourself and make that change.
If you want to Pass in your studies…take a look at yourself and make that change.
There and then I knew that the change which I wanted Had to come from within. I had just accepted that all the things which were not happening according to what I had envisaged had very little to do with people around me, but everything to do with how I lived my life everyday.
I had to re-look at my own life, my attitude, belief system, the language I used when I spoke, my habits and eventually my character and the confirmation was there, I was just a negative person and very cynical…that realisation played a very important part in my transformation … I am sharing this with you because most of the time people have not yet been confronted by their Moments of Truth, even if some have , they just find it too difficult and daunting to do anything about it.
I am encouraging you to look deep inside of you and understand that you have within you the capacity to enjoy a much more richer and fulfilling life. Come take a leap of faith and join me in the quest of your transformation … navigate yourself through this site and start a process which will lead you to total happiness and abundance and a life filled with joy … Welcome to my World and acknowledge your Moment of Truth and lets travel this journey together we will build a new person out of you.
Have you ever wondered why most people have lots of information and theory but less progress? Those suffering a disease I would call “stagnation syndrome”. Most people know how to get into a higher level of success but are not moving towards that direction. At one time they reach a certain place of success and stop right there, as a result what was once success turned into great depression. Success is not success if it’s not repeatable, it turns out to be severe failure in progress. Many people work for what you would agree it’s paying good money but they seem more like unhappy puppies and often sounds like a complainant box. It’s easy to get to taste success but impossible to maintain it if you are not progressive. Progressiveness is simple continual success. When you stop flapping your wings you are going no where but down. When you don’t move forward your burden is going to catch-up with you. Here is why people do not progress:
1. Sleeping over.
Quite often your next level of success doesn’t cost money nor energy but simply your sleep. All you need to invest in order to move forward is your sleeping time. Not even your normal sleeping hours but actually your too much sleeping. People fail this one simple principle; wake up and work on your dreams, be practical with what you know and believe on. How dare you value staying in bed over that which got you a bed in the first place.
2. Lack of self-development and growth.
It amazing how we jump and run through the street complaining that rates are growing, fees are growing, fuel price is growing but my salary is not growing, but wait; are you growing? Unfortunately no one is prepared to buy an outdated asset in case you think of jumping the ship; what do you have to offer that the next person doesn’t? It funny how we find it important for the children and our younger siblings to learn that we find it worth while to spend R40 000 a year to take them through school but you don’t see it important for you to grow proportionally. The problems is while they’re there growing eventually you can’t afford their demands because you don’t grow! As a result they drop out and you’re accountable for them failing because you failed yourself in the first place. Sometimes the best thing you can do to your loved ones is what you can do to yourself.
3. Fear to take a risk.
Some people know that their current occupation is the main reason they don’t move forward and the situation is desperately not changing. However they’re not doing what it takes to break out. Out of fear they’re convicted of a saying; “better is the devil you know”. The truth is you’re frightened to move on because you fear new challenges, new environments, or to suspiciously betray your boss and so on. You need to be brave and take a risk to jump into a deep end where you either swim or you sink and die.
4. Disbelief in yourself
At times you find that the only thing standing between you and the next move is lack of determination. It only takes you to instruct your system. Self-belief is when you program your mind to say; “I will do this” and eventually your mind will psychologically instruct your body mechanism to produce the results. Everything in life is moved by application of a certain force, often negative external force takes over in the absence of positive internal one.
One thing I know about excuses is that there will always be more than enough. You will always find excuses not to do something (there’s always one in a million of reasons not to do it). Excuses are the external forces that restrict you from moving forward. It’s a negative influence that says; it’s too early, who are you, it’s not going to work, it’s impossible, you will regret later and so on… Honestly it’s up to you to choose if you are going to listen to all of that or persist. Success comes to those who don’t give in to excuses because once you do now you will forever do.
Last but not listed is to say; tomorrow. Well we all know that “tomorrow will never come”, the day there’s no tomorrow is the day before your death. You obviously can’t achieve your dreams then. Move now or never!